Thursday, December 9, 2010

Why do parents compete?

I never got it.  I never understood why from the moment I got pregnant people felt the need to tell me how I was already doing it wrong because I didn't do it their way.

Yes, I'm a pro-breastfeeding, cloth diaper, AP practicing, crunchy mom.   But that's what works for me.  If people ask what we do I say "this is what works for us." "this is what we do."  I get that different things work for different people and just because someone chooses to parent differently doesn't make them a bad parent.

When did parenting stop being about love?  Or doing the best you could?  I do understand that breastfeeding is better, but that doesn't make parents who formula feed bad parents. 

We're supposed to be here to love our children and help those around us.  Not to belittle anyone who doesn't have the exact same thoughts of parents as you.  People are different, children are different.  Different things work for difference people.

As Theodore Roosevelt said "Do what you can, with what you have, where you are."