Friday, March 4, 2011

F You life!

I'm finally at liberty to post...so here goes.
My surgery that we wanted to move up has to be put off indefinitely.  Not because we want to but because Ben was laid off.  He has an interview in NC on Monday.  We're trying to downsize everything in the condo because we know that we'll have to sell.

On top of that the doctors (and Early Intervention) think Garrett has Autism.  He's high functioning like Ben is, but we need to see a developmental pediatrician.  We've been told we're doing all the right things for him but it's a hard pill to swallow.

Our world is a mess right now.

7 comments:

Becoming Supermommy said...

I wish I could say something more than this, but here goes:

My husband was laid off when I was six months pregnant with twins- TWO WEEKS after we closed on our condo. Plus? If his health insurance lapsed he would never be insured again- the whole brain cancer thing.

Terrifying? Damn straight. But you've got to keep it in perspective.

And the perspective is this: you're an awesome mom, you have the love and support of an amazing little family, your son, autistic or not, is a beautiful and (from all I can tell via webernet) happy child.

So, hard time, lean times, call them what they are. You are all together, you are all there for each other, and you will get through it.

Because you are a rock star.

And that is all I have to say about that. Give yourself a break, MAKE SURE YOU GUYS GET ON UNEMPLOYMENT, and go ahead and cry a bit when you need to.

And if there's anything I can do... from advice to a couch in Chicago, consider it on the table.

TeawithFrodo said...

The things is...:
2 years ago he was laid off on April Fools. That's also his end date at this job.
I was 4 months pregnant when he was laid of the first time. We were in the middle of a lawsuit as well. We also got screwed over by his insurance and had to buy our own health insurance. Plus that job declared bankruptcy and he's still owed $11k in severance.

He got this job 1 day after I had Garrett. It was a $26K paycut. We haven't been able to get our savings back up and have been getting by putting away what little we can.
Times were already lean. We had to declare bankruptcy.

This is a slap in the face. It's beyond terrifying.
We've done this before and now we're doing it 2 years later with much less in our bank accounts.
At this point we still have to pay for COBRA and get insurance because we're in MA and must have it.

Becoming Supermommy said...

That April Fool's thing is HARSH!

I really wish I could do more than offer my support and sympathy...

But if there IS anything else I can do, don't hesitate to ask.

Megan said...

Oh my goodness, how terrifying and unknown. I understand completely. My husband was first off of work due to a necessary tumor removal and we got in the whole very badly when I was pregnant with our youngest. He didn't return to work until I gave birth and by then, we were so behind on everything: mortgage, bills. Never caught up and then 6 months after he returned to work, he was laid off and didn't find a job for almost 2 years. I understand that fear. I'm sending positive thoughts and crossed fingers for a great job in your direction.

Barbara L said...

Somehow this post slipped past me until today. I was laid off 2.5 years ago. Unemployment is very high here in Florida. You are in my thoughts. I lost my insurance and have chronic health problem/pre-existing. First you panic, then you cry, then you get busy surviving. You have the added pressure of a young child to provide for and the postponement of your surgery. These are things that warrant concern and yes,tears. My best advice though, is to not be consumed by the worry. Keep it in it's place, on the back burner, reminding you to stay strong and get through all this, but not allowing it to consume you. You will find out who your friends are, that is for sure. People who you think you can depend on may fall by the wayside. People you never imagined would care, will be your rocks. As you have helped others in the past, open up your heart to let others help you. You will be helping others again soon. May the wind be at your back.

vaunswanama said...

The layoff is rough. Not sure what you're going in for surgery for, but best of luck there, whenever it happens. As for whether or not your son is autistic or not, it may be hard right now, but you are at a huge advantage since you know how to speak well with and someone on the spectrum. So not only does that put you at an advantage, it puts your son at one too. He has parents who understand.

No one ever wants to hear that their child is different. Thankfully for all three of you, it's not something completely foreign to your family and your son is in an absolutely great position.

TeawithFrodo said...

The things is...:
2 years ago he was laid off on April Fools. That's also his end date at this job.
I was 4 months pregnant when he was laid of the first time. We were in the middle of a lawsuit as well. We also got screwed over by his insurance and had to buy our own health insurance. Plus that job declared bankruptcy and he's still owed $11k in severance.

He got this job 1 day after I had Garrett. It was a $26K paycut. We haven't been able to get our savings back up and have been getting by putting away what little we can.
Times were already lean. We had to declare bankruptcy.

This is a slap in the face. It's beyond terrifying.
We've done this before and now we're doing it 2 years later with much less in our bank accounts.
At this point we still have to pay for COBRA and get insurance because we're in MA and must have it.